What do you think about Surprisingly, Family Time Has Grown?
Initial response: Even though Theresa and I spend a lot of time with our four girls, I guess we're a little old school in
- getting married early (i.e., relative to current trends, but not as young as older generations)
- having children before 30
- having so many children (i.e., relative to larger society, but far below some communities in our area)
- releasing a college-educated mother to be present with her children -- Thank-you to those who support our ministry through prayer, giving, and all the little things you do to help us out!
- finding value in older children learning how to watch younger children
- encouraging children to learn to play/read some on their own and across generations (not just in age specific specialized activities)
- being wary of hyper/helicopter-parenting
Praise God the article reports a decreasing divorce rate, marriage decisions involving more shared interests/professions*, and more parental investment in the lives of their children!
Yes, we do desire to spend more focused time with each of our four girls, particularly in reading/conversation. As we've shared at other times, we've been afforded much of our opportunity to do such through living in the midst of family, having some flexibility in campus ministry responsibilities, and an encouraging/supportive local congregation. Here's a quote Surprisingly, Family Time Has Grown. I'd encourage you to check out the whole piece.
The study, by two economists at the University of California, San Diego,
analyzes a dozen surveys of how Americans say they use their time, taken at
different periods from 1965 to 2007. It reports that the amount of child care
time spent by parents at all income levels — and especially those with a college
education — has risen “dramatically” since the mid-1990s. (The findings by the
husband-and-wife economist team of Garey Ramey and Valerie A. Ramey appear in a
discussion paper presented in March at a Brookings Institution conference in
Washington.)
Before 1995, mothers [Note from Tom: I assume this is meant to be "mothers who have an additional occupation/responsibility than parenting"] spent an average of about 12 hours a week attending to
the needs of their children. By 2007, that number had risen to 21.2 hours a week
for college-educated women and 15.9 hours for those with less education.
Although mothers still do most of the parenting, fathers also registered
striking gains: to 9.6 hours a week for college-educated men, more than double
the pre-1995 rate of 4.5 hours; and to 6.8 hours for other men, up from 3.7,
according to an additional analysis by Betsey Stevenson and Dan Sacks,
economists at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania.
Family researchers say the news should offer relief to guilt-stricken working
parents. -- Tara Parker-Pope, Surprisingly, Family Time Has Grown, NY Times, 4/5/2010
Time to start tracking my hours ;-)
*Note: Is it so unique that my sister and I practically grew up in a Dental Office where our parents work together, Theresa and her siblings spent their early years living in a residence on the edge of a children home where their dad served his alternative service, that I spend a lot of time working out of the home, and our family loves hanging out with students and faculty? I guess it probably is ...