one-on-one mentoring
Posted by tom | May 5, 2007i think one-on-one works best when it's about something else...not "i would like to meet with you just to spend time with you", but "i have some work that has to be done here at the house, and wonder if you can come over to help..."...then conversation comes naturally...cs lewis in "four loves" says real friendship is focused on some common interest the friends are focused on outside themselves...it's not staring at each other and thinking, "let's talk, let's get to know each other"...i think that's why meeting students or whoever for lunch, or late night snack is productive in developing a relationship, and providing a context to talk about a lot of things...in teaching this math class, students make appointments to meet about problems they're working on...but in the process of working through and discussing their questions, we usually talk about many other things in their life...and one history prof in virginia said that he finds that students who need academic help usually have other areas where they're hurting...so before they leave his office, he asks if he can pray for them ...he said no one has ever said no...and one jewish student came back later in the day and said, "i have some other things i want you to pray for" -- contributed by Miller Peck, Mathematics Professor Emeritus, Westminister College
I appreciate Miller's thoughts on this topic and many others. Previous contributions by Miller include:
A heart divided between career and minstry
Teaching with a long view

